Values in common

I hope we have values in common. 

If we do, we may not necessarily have a similar approach to identifying and addressing urgent needs, especially if those needs are personal.

If there was a suitable news service to contact, perhaps that would help. 

Perhaps you would find it too overwhelming to answer my sixty important questions relating to social and political reform, especially if your coping resources are limited at present.

Yet you may value freedom from cruelty and all other unreasonableness.

You may value the experience of gentle, peaceful, thoughtful commonality.

You may value the sharing of insights relating to the politics of emotional distress.

I am intellectually interested in the valuing of shared values, particularly in terms of governance.

What does building a peaceful future mean to you, and how do you attempt to put your ideas into practice, and what prevents you from doing so?

Good governance is based on gentle, peaceful, thoughtful decision-making, in every situation. 

What have been your experiences of compatible ethics and aesthetics?

What have been your experiences of incompatible ethics and aesthetics?

I wrote about compatible ethics and aesthetics shortly before my life was turned upside-down by the actions of aggressively selfish people.  I had no idea, at the time, how the deceptive conduct of manipulative people is so easily and commonly mistaken for reality by people in positions of power.

Having never had much to do with organisations in the past, I had little awareness of the extent of the societal damage caused by the people with power within them.  

So many decisions are made through employment in organisations, and even through volunteering, with no understanding, or even awareness, of the possible consequences.

Few people apparently base their decisions on appropriate historical contexts, whether in workplaces or in their personal lives.  This is a political problem.  But what can be done to resolve it?

If we have values in common, and a similar understanding of societal and interpersonal problems, and adequately compatible personalities and tastes, you may wish to contact me, at least if we also share similar goals.

Perhaps you enjoy interacting publicly more than I do.  Perhaps your coping resources are currently more secure than my own.  Perhaps you have adequate empathy towards me.  Most people do not.

Even before suffering from considerable, interrelated psychological shocks, in 2018, I provide guidance for presenters with similar values to my own.

If you are willing to convey important understandings to various audiences, in public, in private, and in various community settings, you may wish to become one of those presenters.

The first step, of course, is to prove you are not a hypocrite.  I have no interest in associating with people who are inauthentic or otherwise deceptive.

If you have ever had a deeply distressing year, to whom have you attempted to convey that distress, and why?

If you have never experienced anything deeply distressing, how do you attempt to acquire empathy towards people in distress?

The second step in becoming a presenter, with values similar to my own, is to place attention on important understandings, and keep the focus there.

I deeply value privacy, which is why I find intrusions into privacy deeply distressing.

I also deeply value stability.

I value sublimely simple living rather an any form of extravagance.

I value freedom from deception.

I prefer giving my attention to one person at a time.  Even so, I am well aware that each person has already experienced a unique history of social interactions.

Some of us require respite from social interactions.

Other people thrive on social interactions, possibly due to the fact that they gain more pleasure from such experiences than some of us do.  I certainly do not thrive on social interactions.  

I mostly need time to myself, in peace and solitude, whether to write, conduct literature-based research projects, or express myself creatively.  I value calmness and quietness.

Although we may value a few things in similar ways, that may not necessarily mean we share all values in common.

You may not necessarily value my creativity or my research or the style of writing you are currently experiencing or the interrelated colour-schemes and other design features of my Via blogs.  

You may not necessarily appreciate my long-term approach to reflecting on age and identity.

You may be too busy to reflect on anything much at all.  Perhaps you have difficulty maintaining a focus on anything important for long.  Perhaps your life is filled with distractions from the goals you are seeking to achieve.

How do you feel when a goal you have struggled for so long to achieve turns out to be a disappointment once you have achieved it?

Perhaps you have never been in that situation.

So many achievements in life are not personal achievements at all.  They are a matter of luck in terms of time and place and talent and interpersonal support, however much effort we have personally put towards the achievement.

Far too many people achieve little in life as consequences of misfortune.

A few people may seem as though they have overcome adversity through their own efforts though a deeper look into their personal histories usually reveals a considerable amount of luck has also been involved.

I do not admire people for their achievements.  I admire them for their values in the face of adversity.

Organisations are often places in which a thoughtless culture of competitiveness allows aggressors to flourish at the expense of the peaceful.  This is even evident in organisations ostensibly devoted to peace.

What have been your experiences of organisational cultures?

How do you usually respond to aggressive practices?

Perhaps you are unaware of when a behaviour is aggressive.  You may, for example, mistake an aggressive experience for an innocuously lively one.  You may mistake an act of aggression for a playful sense of humour.  You may even mistake passive aggression for innocent forgetfulness, or quietness.

How do you usually assess intentions?

Perhaps you struggle to find the right words to convey meanings and express feelings and interpret situations.  I know I do, whether verbally or in writing.

What is your awareness of fronts and face values?

There are often sinister intentions associated with the aggressive pursuit of goals.  That is why I insist upon my right to express genuinely reasonable courtesy and genuinely reasonable indignation rather than fake friendliness. 

Far too many people feel too afraid to express their true feelings, however moderately, even when treated rudely.  They may not have the coping resources to help them do so.  They may even regard rudeness as normal if they have experienced it far too often and for far too long. 

I am sure quite a few people express rudeness mainly because they think it is normal.  They thereby perpetuate the problem.

That is especially the case in Australia and probably why I have never felt at home in this part of the world.

Yet rudeness is common in Britain, and everywhere aggression thrives.

But what can be done to overcome it?

How peacefully or aggressively do you communicate?

Perhaps you are incapable of acting in the name of thoughtfulness.

Unless you are graceful, attentive and unobtrusive, I would not choose to employ you.  Nor would I select you from several other more suitable service providers.  I would not even invite you to volunteer for activities associated with the goals I value.

I am disgusted when people behave inappropriately.  That is why I refuse to accept unpleasant practices, at least whenever I have the freedom to make such a choice.  

When I have been at my most vulnerable, I have had no choice at all.

How do you prefer to act in the name of values, and who or what has prevented you from doing so at various times of your life, and who and what has supported you?

If you wish to support me, that would be wonderful, at least if we are following higher values in the same direction.

How, if at all, have my Via writings supported you?

I hope you regard my writings as intelligent expressions of kindness.

What have you been doing for the love of respectful knowledge?

Are you aware that care is an emotion?

I have found that share values associated with compatibility are not necessarily those expressed when people are working or otherwise active.  They are associated with the way people prefer to relax.

So, how do you relax, and why do you prefer that approach?

And what prevents you from relaxing?

Perhaps you find my questions stressful!

Perhaps you are not yet particularly familiar with my virtual explorations or my goals.